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Tag!! You’re It!!

“Friends are medicine for wounded heart and vitamin for a hopeful soul” -STEVE TAYLOR

44563119_10156445382475791_6162010182529318912_nIt’s so true but trust me, I am not going to be serious this time. I simply can’t, so here are some type of the friends and I am sure if you have a group of friend you would be either one of them or have one (especially if you are in university).

THAT LEADER: Oh-Boy!! She is a must in every group who decide what to do, and what not to.She/he is the one, who thinks without her/him the group can’t even move(yes to one canteen to other).

THAT FASHIONISTA: In every group, there is a fashion icon.She/he is updated from head to toe and wants every friend to copy her.

THAT DRAMA QUEEN: YES! the one who cries for no reason blames her/himself for being unfortunate or can be sentimental without any reason.

THAT PARHAKO: A mandatory person in every group who pushes everyone to the library every day and the rest of the group completely rely on her/his xerox and assignments without any doubt.

THAT HUNGRY TUMMY: In the middle of the class or combined project this tummy is always rumbling. Do blame her/him if you gained weight.

THAT AWARAGARDH: It is the most outgoing person who converts your combined study night into movie night in 10 minutes, I must say she/He is the RONAQ of the group.

NO-SHOW HEAD: She/he is the one who always makes plans and NO-show at the last moment.he/she is one if the less-trusted person in that group.She/he is the one who is always a late comer and give bribes to get her proxy done.

AN INNOCENT SOUL (ALLAH MIYAN KI GAYEN..LOl): She/he is the sweetest person in the group and does need assistance on every single step. She needs an explanation for everything and She doesn’t even understand crack jokes.

ANGRY BIRD: She/He is somehow similar to the leader but she always grumpy or at least give her/his rolling eyes to another group without any reason.

This list goes on and on… but trust me you are lucky and gonna miss those all friends after you graduated….and tag your besties down below and share your awesome friendship journey. I am dedicating this post to all my friends, Love you all!!

 

 

 

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Kailash Travel Diary (Guest Post)

I am back with an exciting guest post written by @nena khan, she is not only my bestie but also a wife and a mother of three beautiful kids. I always wanted to travel Northern Areas in Pakistan and loved hearing stories about their simple and hard-working lifestyle.she recently visited Kailash Chitral, and I asked her to write a blog post to summarize her trip. Hope you will enjoy her trip as much I do.

I am from Pakistan and have got many opportunities in my life to travel through many areas of Pakistan and meet different people from all strata of society. I have seen almost all places of my country and lastly, I visited Bumburet Valley of Chitral.

It was a quite different and beautiful experience of life. There, I came across very amazing facts and history of Kailash Valley which is very rich in culture and traditions. The culture is very different from other parts of Pakistan. Their religion name is Kailash and the place is also named on religion. The three tribes and valleys of Kailash people i.e. valleys of “Rumbur and Bumburet” forming one, and Birir valley the other is known as “Kafiristan”. Kailash people are very simple, honest and peace-loving by nature.

 

43030776_10156395153755791_3620223673190842368_nThey have a very simple lifestyle and don’t have vast ambitions in life as we do. They don’t spend much money on clothes, food and houses. Most of the people are very poor as they have to spend a lot on festivals and local traditions. They are supposed to celebrate the funeral and slaughter fifty goats to feed the entire community and serve them wine after as well. They sing traditional songs of mourning and ladies wear their traditional dress for the funeral ceremony.  In ancient times, people used to place their dead bodies open in a traditionally prepared Coffin at graveyard but since 200 yrs, they started burying dead bodies with coffins and place dead person Charpai (Jute-bed) ups and down over his grave.

As per local customs, the rich person makes the statue of his dead father or relative and in this way, a family expend five to thirty-five lac on after death events and customs. But now the new generation has gone against this tradition and desire to discontinue such traditions as these make them poorer but elders still insist to follow these centuries’ old customs and traditions which differentiate them from other tribes and people.

42917002_10156395153670791_8050548242208784384_n Kalish marriages are also very different, the groom chooses his bride during a traditional dance party. The lady’s father or brother come to the male house and demands money which the boy provides them and marriage is done. Moreover, any male can even take along any already married woman to his house but has to provide a double amount of expenditure done on previous marriage to her first husband.

42914351_10156395153480791_8090197258571612160_nThe people of Kailash live longer than average and their life expectancy is 80 to 90 years. Recently, a man died at the age of 125 years. The reason for long life is their pure and simple food, which also include local dry fruits and goat meat. The people of Kailash think that women are impure and due to same reason women are not allowed to drink water with the same glass of water or even touch. Similarly, during their monthly menstrual days and delivery of a child, they spend these days in a separate isolated house where their family members provide them with food and other daily use things.

 I would like to say thanks to my blessed nest who encouraged and supported me to write a blog as a guest post.

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Diary Post

Disclaimer: I am not an expert,  just sharing some tips to help you to get your stress out. Please get professional help as soon as possible if things are getting worst.

Its hard for me to get the courage to talk about social issues that we all are facing or at least somehow to become part of this negativity and my BFF suggested me to start writing about some issues ( that are not only affecting us but created by us too) who knows somebody somewhere needs it and hopefully gets benefited.

41262322_10156340715240791_3877449947448082432_nI am completely heartbroken, a couple of young ladies recently got affected by such negativity and commit suicide. Life is a beautiful journey but it has some ugly chapters and one has to read the whole book but without reading it to “The End” how come you can give up in the middle?.

I have been gone through some tough phase of life, like you, like EVERYBODY.. but I always try to look forward and count my blessing every single day, my positive attitude always motivates me to get rid of any negative thoughts and helps me to move on.

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Here are some of my personal notes that I always love to follow and try to get rid of negative thoughts, anxiety and stress to feel better.

  • Think positive and count your blessing, to get rid of the negative thoughts that affecting somehow.
  • Try to stay away from all sort of negativity, drama or anything that is affecting you, distance is always better.
  • It’s OK to be NOT ok...one can’t smile or happy all the time. Cry if you want to.
  • Do not compare your life with anyone, NEVER…the best thing You can do for you live the life you love.
  • Saying NO doesn’t make you a bad person.if you can’t do it, say NO ( it was one of the toughest things for me to do and I’m still working on it).
  • Sometimes it’s your illusions that are so negative that make the situation negative. There are always some better options, try to find one.
  • Don’t do any race with anyone, it could be status race, brand race or could be any, keep yourself away from such people and don’t be one of them.
  • Expect less from other people as much as you can, you will hurt less.
  • It’s not necessary to give an explanation or ask for an explanation if something happened unexpectedly. Just let it go!!
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  • Find a hobby or an activity (activities) that you love to do, it could be anything that you enjoy other than your routine house chores.
  • Talk to your mom, friend or sister/spouse, the one who can listen to you or at least cheer you up.
  • Go for a walk, window shopping or listen/watch you like. Take a time out just for yourself or the person you like.
  • Love whatever you have, your skin colour, your body shape also countless other blessings that we used to take for granted.
  • Talk to nature, do gardening or even try to catch a butterfly like me.
  • Don’t judge the book by the cover, everyone is unique. It’s your vision how you look at.
  • Go with the flow, it always surprises the way you never expect.

Life is beautiful, don’t give up just because you treated yourself like that. You are the most important person you know for yourself first, and for your kids, for your parents, spouse or your friends.

Try to get out of it by yourself, if not, ask for help.

Mental Health Line Canada:1866-531-2600

 

 

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Mid Week Faves!!

Getting candles in the mail is a joy forever, for me yes it is. If you know me(or even not) send some flowers and candles and you know what…You dont need to ask me..I will love you more!!

Diana from ” Joyful Home” sent me some soy candles and I loved them all.20180707_211804

These soy candles are 100 % soy wax which is eco-friendly and free from harmful toxins. I never tried soy candles before and it is safe for everyone(Kids/Pets). I loved the smell and it works really well to absorb any strong cooking smell(desi cooking you know).

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If you have a big space these candles especially “Muskoka S’Mores” and “Maple Syrup” are strong enough to fill the space up quickly with an aroma.

20180707_211713.jpg“Water Melon Slushie” and “Bubblegum” are Mild and soft /fruity smell, that lift your mood up. She sent me some small samples of wax melt and can’t wait to try them all.20180708_221557

These hand-poured candles are something you can buy for yourself or for your friend or can buy as a gift for your co-worker or even stock them up for holiday or eid gifts. You can use the discount code “JOY25” for 25% off on any purchase at joyfulhome on her Esty shop.

p.s: A giveaway is on its way💖!!

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Pottery Barn Inspired Mirror (DIY)

36929122_10156205303745791_3604749880980930560_nSome of you probably know I am a DIY addicted. I get inspired by taking window shopping(without kids obviously) around home decor stores like Pier 1 Imports, Home Sense and Pottery Barn, but their price tags sometimes give me a mini heart attack.

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I just love these “Eagan Multipanel Mirrors “available at PB website but their price range is $400 -$ 1000+, depending on the size and style. I would never ever pay this much for a mirror(even won’t accept it as a gift) that only for decor purpose. I know people buy such things at this super expensive price-tag and I don’t have any issues (with other people) but when I can make a similar version(not exactly obviously)which make me happier then why would I  be breaking my bank?

(SO sorry for bad pictures just because I made this last year and captured all pictures from my Tablet).

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This is one of the projects that I loved more than original inspiration after it is done. I spent around $50 for this DIY.

BaseBoard: I got from Home Depot

Bevelled Mirror/Candle Plates: 25-30 (depending upon size) I bought from Dollar Store, You can find similar at Any craft store or Walmart.

Industrial Grade adhesive: I prefer E-6000 over Gorilla glue.

Cut the baseboard  the desired size i.e 20*25, I measure the size by putting mirrors on the base and trim the excess wood off. I put four mirrors on each horizontal row and set mirrors in five vertical rows.

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Use E-6000 on the back of each mirror and carefully glued it to the base. Leave it overnight put some weight ( but not very heavy that breaks the mirror), I used the mild weight like plant pots, some wooden light-weight items

37062146_10156205303375791_432167829890924544_nIf you like you can use the back of any large frame but make sure the baseboard/frame has to be thick enough to hold the weight of mirrors. (You just need to be sure what are you using since mirror has weight but on other hand, are delicate to handle, can be broken easily.)

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Isn’t it so easy? I put this beauty on my server which stores all my dinnerware and dishes. I will make another one soon for my basement (needs a makeover) but a different version for sure.

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You can either hang on the wall or even use it like me, it is beautiful, isn’t it? I got so many compliments from my guests. I even stained this second-hand MCM server/buffet (I love this piece of furniture) and painted these cool green lamps, both are garage sale/online auctions finds. Want to know the detail of this makeover??

36929122_10156205303745791_3604749880980930560_nIf I tell you that everything on this server is either I painted or my thrift/garage sale find. don’t ask me the price, it will give you a real shock..lol…want to know more just let me know…;-)

 

 

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DIY Eid Wreath

Eid is less than a week away, Hope the last days go well and we make the maximum benefits of this blessed month of Ramadan. I already start missing Ramadan but we are also excited for Eid, although we don’t have Eid holidays as such(like back home) but will be going to get a day off that will proceed to the long weekend if it’s on Friday.

Preparing for Eid is so much fun, I already shopped for Eid dresses and jewellery. Along with that, I do some extra to make the day more special.

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I always decorate my home with fairy lights, banners and garland but this time I wanted to make a wreath for my front door and I am happy to share this DIY with you. I made it under $15 and mostly dollar store items.

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SUPPLIES:

Any basic Wreath I bought this from Wal-Mart for $5.(dollar store has some similar ones and also wire/foam)

Artificial Flowers (of your choice)

Ribbon.

Scissors.

Alphabet Stickers and poster board.

(I bought some stuff as shown in the picture that I didn’t use at all )

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I didn’t follow any rule, just start from the right side, I used the floral twines and then start inserting the orange and white flowers. I simply twisted the flower wire and make it secure at the back. I didn’t use any extra cord or wire, you may need if you use the wire ones.

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Fill up the empty space with more flowers and finish it with some branches of orchid and Snapdragon. Try different combination according to your taste and decor.

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I made an Eid greeting sign and hang with ribbon, I used my E-6000 to secure it with the wreath.  I had countless ideas in my mind but I love the simple Eid greeting. I Just cut the card and paste the alphabet stickers.

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I  use a suction hook to hang it with my front door. You can hang an Eid card or wooden sign, or even make any welcome note to greet your guest.

Isn’t it so pretty and affordable…I fall in love with this…I will add fairy lights a night before to make it more festive.

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Lots of things going on here, I am going to send Eid gifts/goodies to my kid’s school friends to share the joy and make our Eid occasion more special, will try to share ya…! More posts are hopefully on their way.

so, how you guys doing on your Eid ? have you bought your eid dress etc, do share if you make anything extra to make it more special….share some with me…Happy Eid everyone!!

 

 

 

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Five Things I Miss The Most About Ramadan When Fasting Abroad!

When I say I miss Pakistan so much, I really mean it. It’s not easy to live far away from your country and family when you are missing everything badly almost every other day. Ramadan and Eid are the days when we missed the most. My husband and I always talk about our childhood days and share our Ramadan and Eid stories with kids.

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Let’s share with you guys too…here are some most missed things!!

Azaan and Siren:

Yes, I can install all the apps and reminders on my phone but hearing an actual Azan on a loudspeaker five times is such a blessing. I used to live in a neighbourhood where the mosque was just a minute away, That Azaan sound still echoing me since then, it was the most beautiful voice I had ever heard.

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Do you remember, the warnings that issued right before the sehri end was something I simply missed. I remember they used to say”Hazrat sehri ka time khtam honye wala hay,khana peena FORAN bandh krdein warna apka roza nahi hoga”.

That Dhool Walas:

If you are a girl who really annoyed with that drum sound that used to wake up 1 hour before sehri and you really don’t have to make as such anything just because you’re the youngest and you have a super sweet mom than high-five(I used to help in Iftar).I am sure they probably un-aware our love-hate relationship and we only see them in person when they come to get their Eidi(money) again with drumming at the door. I didn’t know one day I would be missing that thing too, but I literally do.

That AfterNoon Nap:

Living in a non-muslim country is not easy, you don’t get half days off during Ramadan. My kids have same school timings so that my husband work hours too but in Pakistan, I remember we get half days and that nap I simply missed that was taken right after zuhar prayers for a couple of hours.

Exchange of Iftar on daily basis:

I used to live in a lovely neighbourhood and we often exchange dishes but during Ramadan, it was done on daily basis. My mom used to make extra Iftar and share with our neighbours and I just love to go and hand out those iftar trays full of yummy iftar to my friend’s house and getting back from them was even more fun.

Rush In markets and food street:

Oh God….this is the most missed memory I always have…the lineups to get samosa and other fried item and after iftar the rush in shopping malls and markets to get eid stuff is I missed the most.

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Traffic Jam:

Yes!! its funny but I do miss that traffic Jam when everyone was in rush to get home before iftar. I myself had broken my fast on the road a couple of time and I remember we used to keep ” dates ” with us to break the fast just in case.

I know it’s a long list that goes on…I can write a lot on this but… Hey..why don’t you guys add some if you are living in Pakistan or abroad like me which is the most favourite or missed thing of the blessed month of Ramadan?.